"More than anything else, experiment with solitude. You will need to make a commitment to quiet time. Try to acquire the habit of checking in with yourself. Several times a day, just take a beat, and ask yourself how you are feeling. Listen to your answer. Respond kindly. If you are doing something very hard, promise yourself a break and a treat afterward. Yes, I am asking you to baby yourself. We believe that to be artist we must be tough, cynical, and intellectually chilly. Leave that to the critics. As a creative being, you will be more productive when coaxed then when bullied." -Julia Cameron "The Artist's Way
I've been spending a lot of time in solitude lately, at least a lot more than I've been used to. That's part of what happens when you experience a break up. You have two choices, you can wallow in self-pity, or you can embrace the time and begin to grow. For me it's not a choice, for me I always want to learn and grow. I'm embracing the solitude. For the most part I'm enjoying it, but enjoy it or not isn't really the point. The point is to get to know myself better, to go deeper into my yoga practice, my meditation practice and draw out my inner artist, she's down there somewhere I know and I'll bring her out.
Solitude is an important part of life, and a lot can be done when we embrace solitude even if we don't think we'll always particularly enjoy it. Even if you are in a relationship, you can enjoy solitude and get to know yourself better. How do you currently try to distract yourself so that you don't embrace solitude? Do you watch too much TV, do you over schedule yourself so that you don't have to be alone? Try spending an hour or a day with just yourself listening to the thoughts that come up in the mind, listening to yourself. I think you'll be amazed at what you find.