Over the weekend, on my retreat, we did a wheel of life evaluation. This is an exercise where we ranked 10 aspects of our life and how we feel about them in that moment. The aspect of my life that I ranked the lowest was home. Looking at the low ranking I thought wow, why is that? I realized it was because I've never really properly nested. I've not really made my space my own. There are many different reasons for this, but they are all just excuses for not being present.
You see, my home is not really my house. I rent a room in this big lovely house, see the picture above! I've got a pleasant room off the back of the house with a bathroom attached and at times it feels like my own private suite.
I've always viewed this home as the "in between point"; the point in between my last apartment and whatever comes next in my life. I figured next would be somewhere with another person, like a partner. I'm not sure that will happen, but if it does or if it doesn't that is no excuse for not attending to the here and now. The here and now is this and I should nest. Which I did today.
I cleaned from top to bottom, I re-arranged some furniture, bought a few pieces to make it cozy and voila I've got a nice tight Alisha sized nest. Not entirely sure why I didn't do this sooner. Whether I decide to move on to somewhere else, into another apartment, in with a partner, buy my own house it doesn't matter, having your own space is grounding. Having your own space that you are happy with is even more grounding.
I recommend nesting. What are you waiting on? What aren't you attending to because you figure something else might happen? I think it's my duty to tell you something else may not happen so act in the now. Be in the present. What can you attend to in this moment? The dogs are attending to their rest, also very important but not very helpful to me!