“Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.”
It's Friday and I don't know about you but it doesn't feel like Friday to me, I'm in a strange twilight zone place where the days of the week seem to have no meaning.
I want to get a little personal today. Will you pull up a chair and chat for a few minutes with me?
My uncle (one of my dads brothers) passed away last week after a very long illness. I'm heart broken for everyone especially my aunt, his kids (my cousins), my uncles and my 93 year old grandmother.
Most of my family lives in northern OH or southern MI and I live way down south in NC. I miss a lot of family functions because going "home" is a 9 hour drive or multiple plane rides. I do my best to make it home for big events like Christmas, weddings and of course funerals. This particular trip home meant canceling long standing personally important plans and making a long drive early in the morning with a horrible cold. This is my price for choosing to live so far from where I grew up.
I have a love hate relationship with funerals. The part I hate is probably obvious, loosing people I love and watching people that you love grieve. I have a huge family on my mom's side and my dad's side and I really love my whole big extended family. When people ask if I'm close I don't know how to answer that question because I have many cousins and aunts and uncles and everyone has their own thread in the quilt of my life. When one person is gone it leaves a hole in the quilt that everyone is connected to.
The part I love is getting to see my family- immediate family, extended family and really extended family. Coming home for this funeral was a difficult feat to pull off given how sick I was earlier in the week, but getting to be with my cousins and being reminded how much I love them and how connected I feel to them not only by the bonds of blood but by the bonds of love was special.
It's really got me thinking about family, love, and connection. It's also got me thinking about all of you and how much I wish for all you this holiday season is that you're able to spend time with those you love especially your family.
Time for a round up of my 5 favorite things from the week. How does that sound to you? Let me know which ones you enjoyed the most.
1) The Surprising Effects of Loneliness on Health. I'm fascinated by loneliness as someone who has rich friendships and as you read above has a very loving connected family but who often feels very lonely.
2) Follow Ariana of Paris to Go on Instagram. @Paris_to_go I'm deeply fascinated by those who live zero waste and I'm endlessly inspired by Ariana who is currently living in Cleveland (a fellow Ohioan)
3) Monastery turned boutique hotel in Sorento Italy. I'm drooling over where we are staying for the "In the company of women treat this coming May/June. We still have space for you, register here!
4) The psychological Price of Entrepreneurship. This article is rather fascinating. Things most of us probably know, but we forget.
5) My Year of No Shopping. This is along the lines of the zero waste instagram handle. It's an article by Ann Patchet about a year of no shopping. I've been seriously considering this as a theme for me for 2018. It seems like it could be enlightening. Could you do it?
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