Wise Women Wednesday: Denise White

Denise White

Q. Who are you? What is your background? 
A. I am Denise White. I swear I was a gypsy in a past life because I don’t like to form roots. I am a tenacious, free-thinking, spiritually guided creative who loves to read, write and contemplate life. I am the wife of a wonderful husband, mother of 6, grandmother of 2. I was born in Apex, NC.  My mother was murdered when I was five and my siblings and I were raised by family members in Marion, SC.  I have always been a disruptor. At 15, I did not like the circumstances, basically being told what to do, 😉 of my life and took it upon myself to move to DC. I showed up on my Auntie’s doorstep with a trunk of clothes. Fortunately for me, she allowed me to shake up her life and remain there. I graduated from Eastern Senior High School and after years of career exploration decided to attend nursing school in Prince George’s County.

Upon the completion of the program, December 2004, I hopped on a plane with one suitcase, an inflatable mattress, the clothes on my back, $540.00 in my purse and landed in Dallas, Texas. I became a licensed Registered Nurse and spent over 13 years working in Oncology and Hospice Care.  I worked at Methodist Dallas Hospital, Baylor University Hospital and Harris Methodist in Ft Worth before moving to back to NC and being employed by Wake Forest Baptist Health and Community Hospice. I have designed and coordinated weddings for my company, VISTA Co and now focus on building my non-profit organization created to mentor girls and women.

Q. What is your work?
A. I am the Executive Director of my non -profit organization Bald Beautified Too.

Denise White

Q. What is one project you are excited to be working on right now?
A. I am elated to complete the programs for the Bald Beautified Too mentor program. It is such a joy to speak with the members as we create their first INpowerment plans. I enjoy seeing their faces light up when they speak about their goals because I know I will assist them in reaching them and bring their dreams to life.

Creating this program has been my absolute most favorite task to date. I’m creative and always have a project or idea mulling around my head or in the works.  Bald Beautified Too is different. It comes from such a spiritually grounded space that it gives me peace just to think about it. I stopped working as a nurse to focus on developing the organization and for the first time in my history myriad of job or career choices, have no regrets for doing so.

Q. What is one thing you've done recently that's scared you and took courage, but you're glad you did?
A. February of this year, I stopped wearing wigs and presented my bald head to the world.  Talk about scary!!! I began losing my hair in my late 20’s due to scarring alopecia and kept it a secret from my family and friends for over 20 years. I revealed it to my youngest daughter first. She laughed and said, “You look like Daddy!” 😊 for the first month, I had anxiety when preparing to leave the house even though each time I did, I never really noticed much difference in people’s reactions.  For the few I did notice, I stood taller and felt more INpowered.  I am very glad that I took control of my fear. If I had not, I do not believe I would have been able to complete my assignment to mentor girls.  Today, I keep my head shaved and love rubbing my scalp. It is comforting and helps me think of fantastic ideas. It is like I am my own genie!  

Q. What is the work you most want to be doing and are you doing it?  If not why not what's stopping you? 
A. I want to mentor girls and women. I am absolutely doing it.  Thanks to my supportive husband, I have been able to focus on this goal.  It is not everyday we have the opportunity to quit a job and build an organization from scratch knowing there will not be pay. We agreed to restructure our life and risk material loss to make this organization a reality. My husband has graciously gone above and what I could imagine to keep our lives financially intact, my stress about the finances at bay and assist me with any portion of this process I needed. I am able to live this dream because of his support, love and guidance and I could not feel more blessed.

Denise White

Q. What would you tell your high school or college self?
A. I would tell my high school self, everything turns out fine. I would let her know, it is going to be a bumpy ride with plenty of not so good choices made along the way, but that I need to hold on, take plenty of notes and smile because my life is going to morph into something quite amazing. I would also tell her not to marry number one because the second one is worth the wait!!

Q. What's one piece of advice or motto you love and use in your daily life that you would like to share with my sweet readers?
A. There is nothing we desire that is separate from us. When we know we are connected to our goals, everything between knowing and realizing the feeling of it becomes a simple part of our life experience.  Our internal beacon is no longer blocked from illuminating our path or cluttered with external debris we perceive as obstacles or broken bridges disconnecting us from what we desire.

A shift of focus from the (external) prize to the (internal) experience of the journey to it aligns us with the desire, showcases obstacles as moments of necessary expansion instead of hindrances and allows the energy we are to flow along the path of least resistance we call happiness. 

Whenever you need a mental or emotional boost. Remember, you are everything you desire. Breathe, relax and allow your energy to flow towards your desire. Increase your positive energy as you reach every perceived obstacle and flow right through it. You are powerful and there is nothing you cannot achieve. You have to believe it.

Denise White

Q. What keeps you creating when you don't feel like it?
A. Shifting my perspective. I am an advocate of taking care of oneself first. But when that becomes a loop of energy instead of a flow, I know my perspective has changed. I put down the “mirror” and look at my family, community and sometimes the world. I remind myself that I am a vital part of life, that my emotions are linked to others and I am a cog in the mechanics of life. This helps me shift the perspective from personal to universal and allows the positive energy of others to flow towards me and break the energy loop.  I guess I could have just said meditation since that is basically what I just described. 😊

Q. Anything else you'd like to share?
A. Please take a moment to view the Bald Beautified Too website. www.baldbeautifiedtoo.org and sign up for our monthly newsletter. We are a non- profit organization and provide mentoring to any girl 5 to 18 years of age. We are helping girls become Wise Women of tomorrow. Also, if you are interested in volunteering or starting your own mentor program, please contact me via the website. I look forward to helping more youth receive quality mentoring from people who care.

Denise White

Q. What's your favorite yoga pose? 
A. I love the power I feel in the Cobra pose.

Q. How do you live a life of abundance?
A. I live a life of abundance by being grateful for how amazingly, peaceful and “full feeling” my life is.  I can be as creative as I desire, pursue every dream that I experience.  I have to slow myself down because I want to give, be and do everything, all the time.  Creating Bald Beautified Too has allowed me to focus all of this energy into a project that fits seamlessly into my passion to provide value to humanity and create a culture of positive change that will be part of this world well beyond my physical presence in it. I have received so much support from my family, the HQ and Greensboro nonprofit community that I am overflowing with abundance which I am eager to share with my members on June 2. 

Denise White