Q. Who are you? What is your background?
A. I am a tender, a healer, an author, and an artist of being alive. I believe in everyday magic and that complex issues often call for simple practices. Breath. Body. A single step. My background? Oh that makes me laugh. I began my working life as an accountant for a multi-national firm and transitioned into the better fit of healer when life’s harsh circumstances sent me running for answers and solace on a less-linear path. My official titles have included: Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Spiritual Director, SoulCollage Facilitator, Life Coach, and co-creator of SoulStrolling ~ a movement for mindfulness in motion, at home or abroad.
Q. What is your work?
A. My work is loving the world. I adore connecting with individuals and groups who are open to being honest, vulnerable, and digging deep. Images, animals, nature, and the written and spoken word are my favorite medicine.
I’m qualified for this work not because I’m so awakened, but because I was asleep for so long. Through my life and professional experience, I have become freakishly good at holding sacred space, noticing patterns, being a safe witness, providing bold feedback, and making connections that give individuals the power to find and acknowledge their own best answers.
Q. What is one project you are excited to be working on right now?
A. This is a very exciting time for me, because the body-mind-spirit travel memoir (SoulStroller: experiencing the weight, whispers, & wings of the world) that I’ve been working on for what feels like a lifetime is being released on November 1, 2018. This has prompted me to shift from writing mode into full-on marketing. I absolutely adore this book and believe that every reader will in some way find him or herself in it. The potential helping impact for other motivates me to stretch into areas of self-promotion I might otherwise shy away from.
Q. What is one thing you've done recently that's scared you and took courage, but you're glad you did?
A. Well, publishing SoulStroller, for one. It contains pieces of my journey that are extremely vulnerable and were held private for many years. It’s a story about finding my voice as a woman and feels powerfully apropos in light of the current #metoo movement. I believe fear is our greatest enemy and have found the beautiful power in moving toward it head on rather than running away. For me, this fear has often been tackled through travel to foreign countries (France, Egypt, Indonesia, & more) which is the container for the stories in my memoir.
Recently I stepped into a recording studio for five days and put my own voice as an artist onto the words I’ve written. This scared the heck out of me and was so much fun it makes me want to immediately write another book, so I can strap on those headphones and sit in front of a microphone again!
Q. What is the work you most want to be doing and are you doing it? If not why not what's stopping you?
A. Life is pretty spectacular at the moment. It’s been a long-time coming, but I finally feel like I’m doing the work I most want to be doing and I have a desire to bring it to a larger audience. I’d love to be speaking to more groups and sharing the world with others through retreat work and the practice of SoulStrolling. For the past couple of years I’ve been grappling with the reality of becoming an actual elder in my communities. The shy girl raised in Oklahoma has matured into a truly wise woman complete with battle scars, wounds, and joyous outcomes to prove it. I believe we were each put on the earth to share our truest selves. My work is shining a light so that others can find their way out of darkness. There is room for all of us to be brilliant in our own ways and if I can help others do this, that’s what I want to do!
Q. What would you tell your high school or college self?
A. If you find yourself walking down an aisle toward a man-boy you aren’t madly in love with and you hear an inner whisper say, Run!, listen to that voice. [Spoiler alert: I was 19 and I didn’t listen.]
Q. What's one piece of advice or motto you love and use in your daily life that you would like to share with my sweet readers?
A. This is my most oft-used advice and just happens to be the final lines in SoulStroller. “Stop whatever you’re doing. Pause. Pay attention. Follow your story. Listen for the call. When it comes, Go! Take your soul for a stroll.” My other favorite motto is: Be Here Now.
Q. What keeps you creating when you don't feel like it?
A. I am a huge proponent of self-nourishment and tuning into what needs to happen in each moment. Per my own advice, when my creativity feels scrunchy or stuck I ask myself if that’s the best use of my current time. For example, I put off writing this interview until something internal whispered, Now! I’ve written my books the same way. Creativity comes in many forms and finding the balance between pushing through and giving it a rest is what keeps me moving forward. I’ve had enough cycles through projects to learn that they have their own time frame and it’s my job to pay attention.
On the other hand… if I know the project is ready to be born and I understand that I’m merely resisting, I have little ways to trick myself. I’ll set a timer for ten minutes to write (which often is enough to get me going for longer). I take dance breaks. I go on walks. Also, showers, baths, and yoga classes are great ways to get my creative juices flowing. One more thing is finding kindness with myself in the process. I’m relatively good about taking a break or setting a project aside for a bit if the muse is simply not clicking.
Q. Anything else you'd like to share?
A. Gratitude is the balm that heals all wounds.
If I may, I’d love to offer gratitude to Alisha and the work she does at Yoke and Abundance and thank her for so graciously allowing me to share about my passions here. I would also be honored to share these words of praise from wonderful wise woman Christine Valters Paintner, PhD as an enticement to check out SoulStroller and witness it through another’s eyes.
“If you are skeptical of magic, Kayce will turn your heart, if you are longing for adventure, she will spark you to book a flight, and if you are tired of worrying what others think, Kayce will gently take your hand and lead you to a place of peace with yourself and inspire boldness.
This book is a delight, full of heartfelt stories of courage, love, and loss, brimming with tenderness and vulnerability, dappled with humor, you will keep reading because you want to know how she unfolds and in the process experience your own unfolding as well. From bliss to grit and back again, this story feels true because it is so much like true life. And like all good storytelling it offers you the gift of your life back through a new lens.”
Q. What's your favorite yoga pose?
A. Child’s pose. There’s something about placing my forehead on the ground that moves me every time.
Q. How do you live a life of abundance?
A. Haven’t you heard? I wrote a book on it! LOL
In a very brief nutshell… I listen to the whispers of my life. I feel its weight. I rise on wings and fly. I trust that I hold my own best answers and that the Universe/God/Spirit is conspiring on my behalf.